Note: My apologies for jumping back and forth between point of views. As in all generalizations, not all guys are like this.
1. It's the character that counts. Guys tend to be more biased about looks; looking first at appearance, dating, then deciding to continue if they like the girl's personality. Girls notice appearance, but they are more captured by guys who do or say things that appeals to them. A good sense of humor and reliability are great traits.
2. It's the thought that counts. A gift is not about price or extravagance. It's about the significance it holds for the person it is being given to. A sincere letter is better than material items any day.
3. Say what you really mean, but say it nicely. There's nothing more inconsiderate than being blunt without purpose. I understand the situation where something is spoken out of spite, but an inconsiderate sentence in a normal context can be really scarring. Leave it to a girl to remember a stray negative comment forever, and worse, take it to heart.
4. A girl's form of attack may be indirect, elusive, and sometimes manipulative. If we are mad at you, we may not say it, but our actions will hint at the issue. If we repeatedly bring up something, it is really bothering us.
5. Don't say anything you don't mean. It's better to hold off on that "I love you," until you are really ready. Guys tend to be slower at voicing those emotions, but once said, it can't be taken back. A girl won't understand if a guy takes back his declaration of love because he was too afraid too afraid to tell how he really felt. It's one of the biggest emotional betrayals.
6. Why would guys check out girls in front of their significant other? Sure, girls look at other guys and might collectively gush with their girlfriends. Still, more often than not, they're not interested in getting with that other guy (a stranger). Girls tend to be more loyal once their feelings are attached. However, when guys check out another girl, it's as a sexual object- something interesting they're attracted to.
7. Girls will be immediately suspicious if you answer ambiguously or try to brush something off. Really, if it weren't a "big deal," then why would you have to lie about it? It may be annoying if a girl tries to bring up your past, but she's just testing you in more ways than one: what are your feelings for her, and do you still have any feelings for those girls in your past? They also want to gauge your reaction. We know that guys tend to remember their "firsts" with the most emotional attachment, so questions about first loves, kisses, sex, place of activity, etc. are extremely important.
8. It's nice to offer. If we sense you don't mean it, we will know not to accept, and be grateful that you asked. It means you considered our feelings despite your thoughts or plans. This includes exclusive invites or just hanging out with the guys.
9. Do make a comment when we put extra effort into our outfit or looks. We're not just doing it for ourselves, you know. It'd be nice if the main audience member noticed as well.
10. Girls will be extra sensitive once a month. It's caused by hormones, but it can be greatly augmented by stressful surroundings and insensitivity. Be extra careful about what you say, and just lay low while the storm passes.
11. We tend to make requests indirectly instead of asking point blank. A suggestion like, "Do you wanna go to the fair?" means, "I wanna go to the fair with you," but more importantly, "I want you to want to go to the fair with me." Our system is complicated and confusing. Sorry.
12. Introducing a girl to other people (especially close friends or family members) is one of the most reassuring and flattering things a guy can do. It means we're important in your life, and and you plan to have us around long term. The opposite- not letting us meet anyone you know, means you don't want us deeply integrated in your life.
13. A guy tends to walk away with pleasure. A girl tends to walk away with feelings (even if she is the one to break it off). Just because a female breaks up first doesn't mean she doesn't care. If a girl is especially harsh, she's may be more insecure about your feelings for her. More often than not, she's trying to protect herself from further pain.
14. There's no such thing as "just friends." At least, not indefinitely. There's always a possibility to see that one best friend in a romantic light, and all it takes is a "moment." It can be the briefest of touches, or an instance of looking into the other person's eyes. Knowing this, girls are especially cautious of female best friends.
15. As jealous and overzealous as a girl can be, it's never without reason. The guy plays a large part in a girl's feelings of insecurity. Maybe he's not paying enough attention or is too lax about certain situations. Girls can be extremely territorial, even if they know the other girl is not interested, they are more concerned with the guy's reaction. Aside from a suspicious nature, girls tend to have an uncanny ability to detect unsolicited attraction.
17. Don't brag about sex. It turns us off. Girls only want to know how many girls a guy has slept with to know what they're getting into, or if they should even bother. The more girls a guy has slept with, the grosser he seems. It means he cares more about sex than about the girls themselves. If she happens to interact with him, she doesn't need to be reminded of his "player" status- she knows exactly what she's lowering her standards to.
18. Being someone's boyfriend is not a joke. If you are unsure about commitment, just leave it at dating. Don't say more than you mean, and don't say any less. Be honest about your intentions, even if it's just for sex. More often than not, the girl may already know.
19. It's nice when a guy dresses up for his girl (in appropriate events). It means that you care about what we think, and that we deserve more than casual jeans and ripped t-shirts. Formal attire is one of the sexiest and manliest looks a guy can achieve. Suits and properly fitted clothing bring structure to any male form. Unlike guys, girls generally prefer nice clothing to nakedness.
20. We see attractiveness differently. What a guy might think as "sexy" may be very different from what a girl considers sexy. Guys tend to look at girls in terms of sexual attraction, as a whole package, while girls pick out details and look closely at individual traits. Guy: "She's hot." Girl: "Her eyes are lopsided and her lower lip is too big compared to her upper lip." Girls judge guys on what kind of girls they like. It's sad when a guy is only attracted to a girl in skimpy clothing.
21. It's nice if you volunteer to take care of us. We don't necessarily need it, but it's reassuring thought to have a guy stand in front of you when you're too afraid yourself. That's why Edward Cullen is so attractive to females- because he plays the role of protector as well as lover.
22. There's nothing more touching than a guy who's sincere. Even if we aren't romantically attracted, we will appreciate and remember your efforts.
23. A guy should never be "prettier" than his girlfriend. This will sprout feelings of insecurity and possibly jealousy from the girl. Also, it's not favorable for a guy to take longer taking care of his looks or dressing fancier than his girl.
24. Girls go to the bathroom together because they want to talk in private, mainly about guys or other people present.
To be continued...
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